The sexual world inhabited by a couple is a beautiful and fascinating thing, and one that should not be self-limited by the participants. Intercourse is of course a big part of that world, as it should be. Many couples also include oral or anal sex in the mix. But surprisingly, masturbation is usually not listed as an activity for both members to share. Sure, each partner can engage in private masturbation (and men often include it as part of their regular penis care routine), but many couples never masturbate in front of or with each other. However, much can be learned from this activity. Perhaps a couple might feel more comfortable exploring mutual masturbation in the context of a game.
If masturbation is seen as a game between two partners, it may be helpful to take a bit of the “edge” off of it when initially attempting it. And once a couple gets used to masturbating together, they may want to include the activity as a more regular part of their sex life.
The games that people play
So what games can couples play that involve masturbation? There can be quite a few, actually.
– Says masturbation. A pair of dice can be used to create any number of masturbation games. For example, a partner rolls the dice. If it is a couple, the man begins to masturbate; if it is rare, the woman. That person must continue masturbating until the “side” of his partner is rolled.
– Stroking letters. As with dice, there are many different games that a couple can create using cards. A simple game involves one partner turning over the top card of a deck and the other partner caressing or rubbing their genitals the number of times indicated on a card. (For example, a 4 of clubs would mean stroking or rubbing 4 times.) The game continues until orgasm or until the couple decides to dispense with the cards and continue masturbating or practicing another form of sex.
Alternatively, a couple can play a game like Crazy 8s, but arrange for one person to continue masturbating while red cards are being played and the other to do the same when black suits are being played.
– Fun music. Go to a website that plays songs or music videos and set it to play randomly. Choose a system for which the partner masturbates when. For example, if a man just acts, the guy masturbates; if he is a single woman, the girl does. And if it’s a band, each couple masturbates.
– The binge masturbates. Catching up on that hot series everyone is talking about, why not jerk off too? A couple can easily determine what the rules are. For example, the man masturbates when a female character speaks and vice versa. Or if a show has multiple stories, decide which one each couple should masturbate during.
– Time it. The simplicity itself. Take an egg timer and flip it over. One partner masturbates until he runs out of sand, then turns it over and the other partner does the same. Of course, the same can be done with an electric timer as well.
– Naked ping pong. Those with a ping pong table can get naked and play ping pong, but each participant must be masturbating at the same time. Many other games, such as checkers or any board game, can be adapted in a similar way.
Of course, many couples won’t need any games to start exploring masturbation together, and that’s great, too.
Whether using a kit or not, men will need to be careful not to get too aggressive during a masturbation session (alone or with a partner). But if a raw penis rubbing occurs, apply a top penis health cream (Healthcare professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven to be gentle and safe for skin.) it is urgent. Select a cream with a high-end emollient (like shea butter) and a natural moisturizer (like vitamin E) to soothe overworked penile skin. And make sure the cream also includes L-carnitine, a neuroprotective agent that can help restore sensitivity lost from rough handling of the penis.