After someone has experienced a loss, they could end up experiencing emotional pain. When it comes to how severe this pain is, it may all depend on who is deceased.
So if a family member has passed away, the amount of grief you feel could be unbearable. Through so much pain, one could seek support from family and friends.
extra help
However, this might not be enough and one might end up seeking professional help. Their friends and family may not be able to be there for them on a regular basis.
You could say that this is just a part of life, as these people will have their own responsibilities to deal with. There is also the possibility that these people are in a lot of pain as well and don’t always have the energy to be there for them.
The Sensitive Approach
The main thing here is that one will accept how one feels, and this will allow one to gradually embrace life once more. This does not mean that they will ever ‘get over’ what happened; what it means is that they won’t be stuck in this emotional place forever.
Furthermore, one can also allow oneself to cry when needed or during certain times. What this will illustrate is that one has a healthy relationship with the emotional part of their being.
just an example
If this is the case, it will be normal for them to accept how they feel. Therefore, regardless of whether someone passes away, a relationship ends, or something else happens that has an impact on them, they will carry on with what they feel.
It’s not going to be a problem for them to cry or get angry, for example, which can usually prevent too much emotional pain from building up inside their body. This will allow you to operate as full human beings.
Two sides
Of course, there will be times when dealing with how they feel will be hard, even overwhelming, but it will be worth it. The reason for this is that having a good connection to your feelings will benefit your life in many ways.
For one, it will give you the ability to form deeper connections with others, and this would not be possible if you were emotionally disconnected. Also, their feelings will give them the guidance they need to live a fulfilling life.
a different experience
For another person, it might be normal to deny how you feel after experiencing a loss. Then it won’t matter what type of loss occurs, as they will respond in the same way.
By taking this approach, they may believe that the emotional pain they were in has simply disappeared. However, while it may seem to be the case, this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Disconnected
In reality, their mind will have lost contact with their body and this part of them will continue to carry their feelings. However, as their point of awareness is usually in their head, this is unlikely to occur to them.
To maintain the illusion you have created, it will be vital that you do what you can to stay out of your body. If this doesn’t happen and they go back there, they will end up overwhelmed with emotional pain.
double pieces
Living on the surface of themselves may allow them to be successful when it comes to their career, for example, but it is unlikely that they will be able to experience intimacy or live a deeply satisfying life. It could also be a real challenge for them to relax and just be; if they settled down, all the pain inside them could start to come out.
Being on the move almost all the time, acting as a ‘human doing’ rather than a ‘human being’, will be a way of avoiding themselves. However, this type of behavior is often seen as a sign that someone is ‘driven’ or has ‘high self-esteem’, so very few people are likely to realize that something is not right.
What is happening?
If someone has a tendency to avoid how they feel as an adult and to live in their head, this could be something that has been going on for as long as they can remember. Perhaps their early years were a time when they did not receive the tuning they needed to develop in the right way.
As a result of this, leaving his body and getting into his head would have been the only way to prevent them from being overwhelmed. The years will have passed by then, but staying out of their bodies will still be a way to keep them from getting carried away by how they feel.
an accumulation
So your body can handle the emotional pain you avoided as a child and it can handle all the pain you avoided as an adult. The longer they avoid themselves in this way, the more pain there will be.
With this in mind, the sooner they face this pain, the better it will be. Facing this pain is what will allow you to not only look whole on the outside, but feel whole on the inside.
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Awareness
If you can relate to this and want to change your life, you will most likely need to seek outside support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.